If you’re like most women, you’ve probably asked yourself that very question a time or two throughout your relationships with men. Perhaps there’s that one hot hunk you can’t keep your eyes off, but you have no idea if he’s attracted to you too and no idea if you’re capable of creating the attraction to make him want you in the same way.
Maybe there’s a cute guy that keeps to himself and is super hard to read because he’s shy. Or maybe it’s Mr. Popular you’re after who always has a flock of girls around him and barely seems to notice you. The guy you desire may even be a longtime best friend who you now see as a potential lover.
Regardless of the man you’re after, know that it is possible to make him want you. It’s possible to create attraction!
In fact, you can even do it through tiny text messages that will make you the object of his desire.
How To Make A Guy Want You – 3 Things He’s Hoping You Know
The key thing to remember is men love women who make them feel good…women who make them feel like men. But what exactly does that mean?
To make a man see you as the only woman in the world, you must understand how he thinks, how he communicates, what he wants, what he values, and what he needs to be happy and to be open to love. If you’re truly serious about understanding men and improving your relationships with men, I highly recommend relationship expert Bob Grant’s ebook, “The Woman Men Adore”.
Love Him For Him, Not For His Potential
For many women, one of the hardest things to do is to accept a man for who he is and not for his potential. You always hear men saying that a woman was trying to change them. This is often the result of a woman falling in love with a man’s potential.
A woman starts to date a guy thinking she can change him into a better man, and then when she can’t, she starts to complain, points out all his flaws, and eventually makes the man feel completely emasculated. Worst of all, many women don’t even realize they’re doing this. It’s simply in their nature to want to beautify and improve things, including their men.
But men perceive this as a huge dose of disrespect which is a big turn off. For men, respect is even more important than love.
If you want a man to want you and fall in love with you, then you must accept him for who he is, faults, flaws, and imperfections included. Show him that you love him for him and NEVER try to change him.
It’s critical to make your man feel admired just the way he is.
Love Yourself Just The Way You Are
You may not be a perfect 10, but nothing turns a man on more than being with a woman who is confident and comfortable with who she is, regardless of what she looks like. Don’t get me wrong, men are visual creatures, and you should always look your best if you want to catch a man’s attention, but you don’t have to be skinny with large breasts, a short skirt, and high heels to make a man want you. It’s far more important to accept and love yourself the way you are.
After all, how do you expect a man to love you and want you if you don’t love yourself? You will quickly turn a man off if you’re constantly complaining about how you feel overweight, how your hair isn’t quite right, how your teeth aren’t white enough, how your butt’s too big, etc.
If he takes you on a date, let him know that you put on a special outfit or wore a special perfume just for him. Men love knowing women do these types of things with them in mind. You want to feel special when you’re around him, but he also wants to feel special when he’s around you, even if he has to maintain that “macho, could care less what anyone else thinks” exterior.
Make Your Man Feel Successful
Men are extremely success driven. They want to feel successful at everything they do, both in work, play, and in relationships.
Feed your man’s need for success by complimenting him on how great he is at his job or how great he is at the sports he plays. Tell him how good he is at fixing things, helping you solve problems, or what a great kisser and/or lover he is if you’ve already developed an intimate relationship with him. When you make a guy feel successful, you get one step closer to being constantly on his mind and making him crave you.
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Derek Maak has been writing about relationships for as long as he can remember. He hopes to bring more passion, romance, intimacy, desire, and FUN to every interaction with your loved one. Connect with Derek on Twitter, Facebook, and Google +.