For many women, talking dirty is completely foreign. It feels rather awkward and it doesn’t come naturally. Many women are afraid to say dirty words or dirty phrases because they worry they will be embarrassed or will look stupid in the eyes of their man.
Or they worry they’ll be classified as a “slut” or “that girl” if someone else finds out about it. Some women simply freak out when it comes to talking dirty because their man pushes them beyond their comfort zone.
This is largely because the sexual prowess of women has been suppressed by society for centuries. Women are supposed to be “prim and proper”, not turning men on in ways you’d never want your mom (or dad for that matter) to hear.
But the truth is, we are ALL sexual creatures, both men and women. Many people tend to forget or simply don’t like to acknowledge that women like sex too.
In Dirty Dialogue: A Good Girl’s Guide To Being Bad, Devian Day states…
“The ultimate fantasy of a man is the dichotomy between “naughty” and “nice.” The unification of these polar opposites is the innocent girl with a raging horny side, who only reveals it to him in private, behind closed doors.”
He goes on to say…
“Your apparent innocence is your ultimate secret weapon, and the fact that it may be 100% sincere has the potential to blow his mind. You must use it to your advantage.”
This is the power of dirty talk!
You see, knowing how to talk dirty to a guy isn’t about sleeping with a man on the first date. It isn’t about “putting out”, offering up sex, or doing something you’ll regret later. You can be a perfectly “good girl” and still drive a man wild by learning how to talk dirty in a classy way. The best type of dirty talk is more about “sexual innuendo” then it is about dropping a bunch of “F-bombs” or telling a man where you want him to stick his body parts, especially when you aren’t yet completely comfortable with the idea. The really down and dirty stuff can come later.
Talking dirty to a guy gratifies his ego. It makes him feel like a man because it makes him feel like he is the cause of your sexual and flirtatious attraction. And making a man feel like a man is one of the best and quickest ways to make him want you and make him fall in love with you.
Men want to be the hunter. That’s why flirting and using dirty talk sayings can work so well. It lets a man know you’re interested and attracted to him. It teases him in a way that makes him want to chase you. And, best of all, you can do it in a way that makes him think that he is the one responsible for your sexual advances, when in reality you are in complete control of the situation.
With today’s smart phones, sending your man a dirty text message in the right way at the right time can be a sure fire way to make him want you. In fact, text messages are so powerful that relationship author Mike Fiore has dedicated an entire program (Text The Romance Back) to helping women stir up romance with men through text messages.
Previously we discussed the concept of sexual innuendo. But how exactly does that work?
Sexual innuendo is based around the concept of misinterpretation. It’s all about taking something innocent and giving it a sexual spin. It’s the classic case of, “That’s what she said.” Trust me when I say you can turn just about anything into something dirty if you want to.
For example, let’s say you have a splinter in your finger and your man asks you, “Are you going to pull that out?” Give him a quick grin or raise an eyebrow and respond with something as simple as, “That’s what she said” and he’ll probably be thinking dirty thoughts about you the rest of the day.
Ok, how about another dirty talk example. Your man says, “Wow. That test was really hard.” You respond with, “Not as hard as something else I know” followed by a couple of winks. He’ll be thinking about you the rest of the day, and a little sexual flirtation can be a great way to keep a guy interested. It’s even more powerful when you say something flirtatious and then give him a wink and just walk away.
How about some examples of dirty text message ideas? Try one of these with your man and see what happens:
Dirty Talk Lines You Can Use Over Text Messages
What would you do to me if you were here right now?
What would you want me to do to you if you were here right now?
I’ve been naughty today. What are you going to do about it?
I’ve got a naked surprise waiting for you when you get home
I want to jump you and feel your body against mine the minute I see you
Tonight when you get home, I’m going to…
Thinking about you is making me hot. Wanna play?
Of course, these examples are relatively “PG” and things can get a whole lot more sexual when you start talking about specific body parts and what you want your man to do to you, and for that we recommend checking out the examples in Devian Day’s dirty talk guide.
Start slow by using sexual innuendo to flirt when you first start dating and gradually work your way up until you’re more comfortable with the dirtier stuff.
Learning how to talk dirty to a guy should be fun and enjoyable, so don’t be afraid to try it with your man. He’ll love you for it.
Derek Maak has been writing about relationships for as long as he can remember. He hopes to bring more passion, romance, intimacy, desire, and FUN to every interaction with your loved one. Connect with Derek on Twitter, Facebook, and Google +.