Today, right now, you’re going to learn how to attract a guy so you can get the man you want. He might be the cute guy in class. He might be your sexy new co-worker. He might be some stranger who lives in your apartment complex or a guy you’ve seen a few times at the bar when you’ve been out late with your girlfriends.
By becoming an irresistible woman who makes him feel like no other woman ever has, you’ll be able to capture his heart and make him yours.
How To Attract A Guy – 5 Simple Tips To Get A Guy To Notice You
First and foremost, always be beautiful. You might be wondering what exactly that means, so let’s explore this a bit further.
Being beautiful isn’t just about looks. It’s not about being skinny or being the girl who could be on the cover of Playboy or Sports Illustrated.
While physical appearance can play a role in catching the attention of a man and making him want you, being beautiful is more about the expression of your femininity through your actions and emotions. It’s what relationship expert, Kara Oh, refers to in her ebook, Men Made Easy, as feminine grace.
It’s true that men are hardwired biologically to be attracted to the physical appearance of a woman. As a woman you can choose to accept this and not hold it against him or you can choose to be a man hater who sees guys as nothing but shallow, uncaring jerks. The former is a much better attitude to take if you want to catch and keep a man.
Remember, your looks are your first chance to make a good impression because that’s the very first thing he’ll see before he ever gets to know you.
However (and this is a very important point), men don’t fall in love with or marry a woman based on her looks. Men fall in love with girls who make them feel good. The relationship doctor, Bob Grant, explores this concept in detail in his guide to understanding men, “The Woman Men Adore”.
Always be as beautiful as YOU can be if you want to attract men. Remember, it’s about expressing your femininity and not about dressing like a prostitute or making men feel like you’re giving them an open invitation for sex.
Being beautiful is all about being comfortable with yourself and your own appearance. It’s about putting your best foot forward each and every time you’re with your man and making him feel incredible every time he’s around you.
Being beautiful is about having confidence in who you are and believing you deserve everything life has to offer, including a great man to love and cherish you. Confidence is attractive and sexy. Insecurity is your enemy when it comes to making a man attracted to you.
Men love to be complimented by women. Maybe it’s ego and having an instinctively competitive nature or maybe it’s simply hardwired into their biology, but men love when a woman offers up a sincere compliment that makes them feel more like a man.
Remember, if you want to get a guy to notice you, then you have to make him feel good. A compliment is a great way to accomplish this, and as you get more comfortable with him, some well timed dirty talk can serve the same purpose.
Men are always told to compliment women, but it shouldn’t be a one way street. Society judges men on their success and, therefore, men have a strong desire to succeed at everything they do. It’s why they tend to be much more competitive than women.
When you compliment him at how good he is at something, you give him the ego stroke that makes him feel like a man. When a man associates feeling good with being around you, he’ll do virtually anything to keep you.
The third tip in teaching you how to attract a guy is this: men love women who know what they want, especially when what they want is HIM!
If you like a guy, don’t be afraid to go after him. Chances are he likes you too, but is afraid to make the first move because being rejected by a woman can be a huge confidence crusher for many men.
Remember, some guys can be extremely shy when it comes to approaching women. Being rejected is a big deal for men. But many times, the shy guys are the good guys you miss out on if you don’t take it upon yourself to approach them.
When you approach him first, you take pressure off him to be responsible for making the first move. You also express interest in him and exude confidence which is exactly what men want in a woman.
If you want to give him a big ego boost and make him feel like a stud, then give him hints to show him you’re interested, but don’t directly ask him out. This can be accomplished through flirting. This way he can still feel like he’s being a man by asking you out even though you actually made the first move.
If he doesn’t catch on to your hints or still won’t make a move, then be bold and ask him out. If he’s dragging his feet, it’s the only way you’ll know for sure if he’s interested or not. If you’re nervous about approaching and asking a guy out because you’re not sure what type of date to go on, this list of over 300 date ideas might help.
Never Try To Change Him Or Make Him Feel Like He’s Not Good Enough
Kara Oh points out that many women make the mistake of falling in love with a man’s potential and not with who he really is. A man will resent you if he feels you are trying to change him.
Everyone has faults, flaws, and imperfections. Catch the attention of a man by making him feel like he’s perfect just the way he is.
Men NEED to feel admired, especially if you want them to see a long-term future with you. It’s critical to getting him to commit.
A Woman’s Smile Can Melt A Man’s Heart
Lastly, use your smile every chance you get. Nothing melts a man faster then a beautiful smile from an attractive woman. And no woman is more attractive than the one who is outgoing, fun, happy, and who enjoys life and all it has to offer.
If he doesn’t know you very well or if you’re trying to catch his attention for the first time, then a warm smile let’s him instantly know you’re approachable and friendly. It immediately melts away the fear of being rejected if he approaches you or asks you out.
When it comes to attracting men, a weak half-smile just won’t do. To be constantly on his mind give him the biggest smile that lets him know you’re interested and attracted to him.
Derek Maak has been writing about relationships for as long as he can remember. He hopes to bring more passion, romance, intimacy, desire, and FUN to every interaction with your loved one. Connect with Derek on Twitter, Facebook, and Google +.